How It Started : My Pro Bono Work + Creative Breakthrough Coaching Technique
I developed my quick & quirky technique while doing pro bono work with women around the world who were struggling during the pandemic.
First, I reached out to my non-profit contacts and said, ¨Send me your clients who are grappling with grief.¨ The requests trickled in.
Then, I got some press. Suddenly, I was FLOODED with requests.
Faced with their urgent needs, I chose to work with women over 50 who were dealing with loss and serving as the sole breadwinners in their extended families.
My approach was simple and fast by necessity.
ALL of these women were supporting various combinations of their children, parents, siblings, and others.
ALL had lost their jobs or were forced to close a business.
ALL had also lost a partner or parent to COVID or another illness.
They were grieving, exhausted, facing financial ruin, and resistant to trying something new.
So, I threw everything I knew into a process that could quickly help them support their loved ones.
It was the middle of the pandemic.
Everyone was home and online.
It was the perfect time for online courses! (Read about my own first course - back in 2003 - here.)
We started with a Breakthrough Session to help them release their limiting stories, followed by 30 days of daily coaching support and accountability.
I guided them through any lingering self-doubt, worked with them to fine-tune and integrate their new narrative, and taught them how to build, launch, and market their first simple digital course.
You see, they changed their lives in ways they could not have imagined just weeks earlier, with exponential growth in multiple areas.
They had changed, and that changed everything.
I had no idea that this turbo-charged technique would be so profoundly pivotal and consistently effective.
I was just doing my best to help these women put food on the table for their families!
For two years, I charged nothing.
Next, I started testing my technique with clients who were facing other types of challenges.
I tweaked and refined my Breakthrough series to go deeper while staying light.
I offered it to paying clients.
It worked.
And it kept on working, in all kinds of circumstances.
Here are a few of the women who turned things around in a short period of time while facing extreme challenges. Which of their stories resonates most with you?
Akiko
friendship coach
Japan
¨Loneliness is a big problem in Japan. After my husband died and my two children moved to Tokyo for jobs, I was very lonely, too. But I had moved many times, so I knew how to make friends! I helped my neighbors and co-workers make friends, too. I didn´t charge money. Soon, I had too many people to help.
Maya showed me how to make a fun friendship course online, like a game. Everyone loves it!
So many people all over Japan take my course. I have private clients, too. I have a big wall with so many photos they send to me with their new friends. It makes me so happy!
I never dreamed I could be a professional friendship coach. My children are so proud! I am very honored to help with this issue in our society.¨
Sharon
custodial grandparent mentor
South Africa
¨My daughter died suddenly of cancer, and I gained custody of my two granddaughters, then ages 2 and 4. I was still grieving from the loss of my husband the year before, and had a stressful job as a social services director. I was completely overwhelmed.
Maya showed me that I could help other custodial grandparents. I had worked with many in my job, and now I truly understood their challenges.
In our session, it became clear that I could start by creating support groups within the agency I worked for. I really enjoyed helping other grandparents, and decided I was ready to start my own organization.
Within a few months, I quit my job to expand my services to grandparents outside of South Africa. I now work from home, where I can spend time with my sweet girls. It has been a joy to devote my time to helping other grandparents.¨
Rana
retired journalist
Lebanon
¨I turned to Maya after a young woman in Beirut died of her injuries while reporting on the street in front of my home. I was heartbroken. As a former war correspondent, I wanted to help these brave new reporters protect themselves from harm.
Maya encouraged me to partner with one of my conflict-experienced colleagues to offer free safety training, supplies, and mentorship to street correspondents. The work they do in bearing witness and creating informative videos for social media and news sites is crucial for Lebanese citizens and the world.
I am thankful for the chance to help these committed citizen reporters stay safe.¨
Marla
organic farmer & herbalist
Canada
¨After I was diagnosed with multiple auto-immune diseases at the age of 44, I felt like my life was over. I had always been active and healthy. Suddenly, I was bedridden.
I moved in with my mother, who had a small farm.
I am so lucky that she became a skilled and passionate gardener in her later years! I paid close attention to the lessons she taught me. As I got stronger, I quite literally dug into understanding more about the power of herbs to heal our bodies.
And then my mother died. I was devastated. Maya helped me to see the potential for using the farm to help others who were suffering.
As a certified herbalist, I now teach parents of immune-compromised children how to use herbal remedies to improve their family´s health and happiness.
I have so much gratitude for the chance to live in this beautiful place, and to honor the ground my mother so lovingly tended.¨
Irina
psychologist
Ukraine/Poland
¨Our city was destroyed. My son and I fled to Poland. As a psychologist, I recognized the severe trauma that all war refugees were experiencing, but I was terrified to try to help anyone. I felt too fragile. I feared I would be overwhelmed by their grief.
Maya helped me to see that I could use my grief as my power. I had empathy and the skills to guide others through this unimaginable misery.
I started a free clinic for displaced Ukrainian mothers here. Working with them has helped me to heal myself each day.
I have brought my remaining family members here, and I support them through the work I do with private clients. Although the horrors continue, we focus on caring for each other and finding small everyday joys.
This is the most deeply fulfilling work I have ever done.¨
Zahra
muralist/instructor
U.S.
¨When the pandemic hit, I crashed. The pain of helplessly witnessing the deaths of so many of my neighbors in New York City broke me.
Maya got me going again. I created an online course for other muralists. Helping artists brought me back to myself. Decision makers started to approach me. I was offered projects that I never would have attempted to apply for.
Then, my mother fell ill. I left New York and moved back to France to care for her. (I am French Algerian.) Returning to a predominantly African community touched me deeply.
Again, I reached out to Maya for help. Her process gave me clarity. Now, I work with young artists in immigrant communities to create murals that instill cultural pride.
As my mother was dying and our neighbors offered loving support, I realized that this is truly where I belong. I am honored to do my life´s work here.¨
Helena
tiny home designer
Finland
¨My partner died in an accident. A few months later, the architecture firm I worked for was acquired and moved abroad. As a single mother, I needed to find work, but in my small city, options were limited.
Maya helped me to see what I truly wanted. I had designed a tiny home that was built on my property for my mother. Having her so close truly enriched our lives, and I wanted to help other families bring their older loved ones closer.
I had my first client within two weeks of working with Maya. I started my own firm, and now have two employees.
Each day, I look forward to talking to the team and meeting with clients. I love the work we do together."
Sonya
vocal coach
U.K./Italy
¨After getting panic attacks during my last two performances, I had to stop doing what I loved most and had trained my whole life for. I was sick with grief.
To pay the bills, I worked six days a week teaching local voice students in my flat. I became physically ill, and my anxiety was at an all-time high.
Maya walked me through the tech, and within a week, I was teaching all my students online! I got healthier and more relaxed.
Next, she showed me how to start an online voice course. It attracted high-level clients from all over Europe, allowing me to raise my rates and work fewer hours.
Then, Maya revived my long-forgotten dream of living in Italy. Within a year, I bought a charming little house in a small city in southern Italy. I helped my mother refurbish her own home near mine, and my daughter (who works remotely) now lives with her.
I have partnered with a local teacher to create a free after-school music program for over 200 schoolchildren here.
At 56, I am happier, healthier, and more connected to my community than ever.¨
Luz
psychotherapist
Spain
"In a classic case of the shoemaker's children having no shoes, I was struggling with grief even though I am a therapist who has been helping patients through this process for nearly 30 years.
I turned to Maya because she had helped me with a separate challenge. I trusted her, and knew she would be insightful.
She helped me to recognize that I felt guilty about the way my partner of 24 years had died. Despite having a year together knowing he was dying, and a very clear plan in place, that last day felt like a disaster and a personal failure. Everything went wrong in so many ways.
After I told her more about our relationship, Maya pointed out that he'd had a great sense of humor. I suddenly realized he would have laughed at the absurdity of it all! This was an enormous relief, and allowed me to let go of my sense of responsibility for the comedy of errors that occurred.
Despite my training and experience, I had not put this together myself. I am deeply grateful to Maya for her astute and loving guidance."
All of these women (and over 100 others) chose to switch their stories in order to create a life they love.
In the process, they improved the lives of their families,
uplifted their communities,
and created an exciting new future for themselves and others.
I no longer offer my Breakthrough coaching series.
But I use what I learned every day.
Helping others work through their despair in order to see new possibilities is perfectly aligned with supporting those moving through collapse awareness to inspired action.
If you´d like to partner with someone who can help you:
*navigate through your grief about the world while
*opening to your longing and
*imagining new ways to rise to this calling,
I would love to hear from you.